Lunch Status: September 2010

It's a comment from a random post I found. Original feed here... http://www.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/dh7rd/big_thanks_to_my_friends_pic/

Comment of interest:

There are two types of people: people who use the phrase "I hate drama" all the time, and normal people. You see, the differences between these people is that they have different definitions of the word drama.
To the normal person, the definition of drama is any person, including themselves or even a GROUP of people, who deliberately cause a problem or situation to escalate. These people can effectively be considered dramaphobes. They hate drama, although the never use the phrase "I hate drama". They hate drama because it makes them uncomfortable and only seeks to ruin the relationships they already have and never leads to anything positive.
To the drama-preachers, or those who consistently use the phrase "I hate drama" the word has a completely different definition. These people consider drama to be ANYTHING that disrupts THEIR party, their plan. They look at their lives from a much more self-centered view and (from my experience) have a HUGE problem empathizing with others. These are the girls you always see crying on the phone to their boyfriend because they did something really stupid. These are the guys you always see arguing with their girlfriends in public because she wanted to buy a movie and he didn't (or something along those lines). Let me lay out what I see as the key differences between these two groups with a situation.
Lets say that both a dramaphobe and a dramapreacher were in a situation where they just found out that their girlfriend/boyfriend had been eating cheetos in bed even though their girlfriend/boyfriend knew their significant other HATED when they did that. A dramaphobe would enter this situation and probably think "They know I hate when they do that but perhaps it was a lapse of memory. Either way, I don't want to get into an argument about it because it's silly really so I'll just remind them nicely". On the other hand, the dramapreacher will interact with this situation in a completely different manor.
Because they are self-centered and are really only concerned about themselves, their first instinct is to assume that their significant other is doing this on purpose, just to piss them off. They can't see that maybe they had just forgotten because the dramapreacher CANNOT EMPATHIZE . All they see is someone crashing THEIR party and it instantly makes THEM feel entitled to throw a ragging hissy fit and CAUSE MORE DRAMA. So basically, the dramapreacher sees their significant other as having caused the drama, but when they throw their hissy fit and start screaming, they are the true cause of all the drama.
I'm sorry about my none-scientific rant but I really have a strong dislike of dramawhores in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages, mostly because I view them as hypocrites.